Wonder why I am talking about the Husband today? Consider this oft repeated quote by Sheryl Sandberg, author of Lean In
“The most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry”
So the idea is to discuss different ‘types’ of husbands(Not all are mine, but those I have come across:). Let’s try figure out at the end what type would help our career goals. So, here goes:
1. The Terminator
I will marry you if you quit your job and not work. You can do whatever else you want.
Yes, they still exist. This is a true story. Someone(In the interest of anonymity and offending none) I knew was getting married. It was an arranged marriage, and he said this was his only ‘condition’. And the girl agreed the very next day. Her family had looked on the ‘alliance’ as an amazing opportunity: a boy with degrees from India’s finest colleges with great prospects. It took me a long time to wrap my head around it. At 22, a girl had decided to never take up an ‘outside’ job ever. ????#@&#*(@^$*.
2. The Richie-Rich
Why bother working so hard?
This kind has a lot of money or atleast enough. Some of it inherited and the idea is: When we have more than enough money, why strain so much? Just do something to keep yourself occupied.
In some ways, this might be the ideal life, maybe the woman can pursue work in a field with less stress yet more enjoyable to her. But in terms of achieving something with your life, it might not always be the most conducive environment for success.
3. The Indifferent
If you want to work you work. If you don’t want to work, don’t. As long as you can take care of the children and the household and manage all your other work. I won’t stand in the way of your dreams.
Need I say more?
4. The ‘MAN’ in the Working Couple
In this type of family, a two person income is essential to run the household. They have the loans and mouths to feed. Once the husband returns home, he relaxes for the day. The wife brings the groceries on the way back, cooks, feeds, cleans and takes care of the family.
5. The 50-50 Partner
This man realizes that both of you have dreams and ambitions. He can move across the country for your job if you cannot. He thinks parenting and chores at home are the responsibility of both. He also thinks making money for the family falls on both of you. Home & financial responsibilities can be split according to the stages in life and career.
6. The ‘Entitled’
And there are those who do not want to do a thing. They sit on the couch and watch tv all day, or try a few get-rich-quick schemes. Neither do they want to take responsibility at home or at work. They want to spend for their needs(including alcohol) and they believe it is the responsibility of the world to take care of them.
Intentionally, I have restricted myself to only the classification and not gone into pros-cons and choices here. That is reserved for a much longer, and more detailed post later.
Have I missed out on any other types? Are you married yet? Which type of husband is ideal for the career of your dreams?