She secured well in the competitive exams

He wasn’t very far behind

Both joined the same course.

 

She asked to borrow his notes

He called her up to ask doubts

Both soon became good friends.

 

She studied hard every sem

He went through every book from a-z

Both always did well.

 

She said “I love you”

He said, “I have always wanted to say that to you”

Both got placed at the same company.

 

She was praised for her skills

He for his drive and promptness

Both of them always stayed late.

 

She told her parents he earned well

He told his parents she cooked as well

Both their families agreed for the marriage.

 

She got up in the morning to do the housework

He had had a hard day at work

Both left together to work.

 

She wanted a little boy

He wanted a little girl

Both families loved their precious grandchild.

 

She wanted to get back home by 5

He did all-nighters many-a time

Both went about their jobs for a while.

 

She got pregnant again

He got promoted again

Both celebrated with a date.

 

She had to take care of another baby

He had a new job in another country

Both thought her career was at end.

 

She was asked, “Wasn’t she proud”

He was named the new CEO now

Both smiled with a little doubt.

Lopsided Balance: #AtoZChallenge
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22 thoughts on “Lopsided Balance: #AtoZChallenge

    • April 15, 2017 at 9:18 am
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      Thanks Kira. Yes, the idea was to contemplate how our gender specific responsibilities affect what opportunities we take up: both as men and women

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  • April 15, 2017 at 12:14 pm
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    You touched my heart, women have come along way, and are getting equal opportunities and chances, but somewhere at the end of the day, there are choices which are to be made, not forced , not pushed, and i am talking about the lucky few of us who get the respect we deserve from the ones we love, yet the choices, push the ceo tag away a bit further. Strange and unavoidable mostly.
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    • April 15, 2017 at 3:52 pm
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      A lot is changing but there are some innate & inculcated attributes in both sexes, which drives them towards different destinies. This is partially based on a true story but symbolises the lives of many. As you said, this is also applicable only to the lucky few of us who have the opportunities & are in good marriages.

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  • April 15, 2017 at 3:01 pm
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    That last verse though. Left me with a lump in my throat. Truly moving.

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    • April 15, 2017 at 3:53 pm
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      🙂 Such stories happen and its not clear along the way what went right/wrong.

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  • April 15, 2017 at 6:16 pm
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    An all-to-familiar story in this poem. Does our society, our world on the whole, allow for the goals of both excellent parent and excellent worker? Is the system set up to doom those who aim for both to always fail at one?

    Great work on the post. Keep it up!

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    • April 15, 2017 at 10:19 pm
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      Thank you:) Yes that is the question, isn’t it? Can someone have it all and be happy, guilt-free at the same time?

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  • April 17, 2017 at 3:30 am
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    Interesting questions and perspectives! Your poem is very poignant. 🙂

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  • April 17, 2017 at 9:15 am
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    It’s sad having to watch women make all these compromises. I sort of had a feeling this is where it was leading, but another part of me hoped that the poem was about making it work against all odds. It’s certainly more realistic this way. That last line just killed it! Very well done.

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    • April 17, 2017 at 12:13 pm
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      Thanks Sreesha:) Your words mean a lot to me. It’s just a common story, but many of the time there is this feeling of being stuck in gender roles.

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  • April 18, 2017 at 6:43 am
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    I wanted it to end differently – but I like how you set it up to show how they got there. All the many little compromises along the way, wrapped up in difficult “how can I choose” life choices.

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  • April 21, 2017 at 11:07 am
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    Loved the title. Wasn’t expecting it to go where it did. Kept expecting now there will be a problem, now there will be a problem. But that’s why the title works – choices.

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    • April 21, 2017 at 11:37 am
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      Thank you:) It usually the small everyday choices and also our immediate surroundings that make our destiny!

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  • April 23, 2017 at 4:24 pm
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    Lopsided it is! Nobody can have it all, sadly with gender specific roles, it becomes tough if they aspire for something other than what the society expects them to do,
    Stressed Future

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