Once upon a time:

High heels and matching gloss

A twirly skirt and a flowery top

“O, don’t you look lovely?”

The mirror coos at me

I just tug in a stray strand

Skipping out of the door

Yep, I am ready, I am so ready

For yet another Friday evening

Of sipping on iced tea

Of laughing and giggling

And checking out men.

 

Now:

I clothe the toddler

Racing around the house

Writing a note to the baby-sitter

While ironing the blouse

Checking up on meals

While calling up the man

“Is that a stain?”

The mirror’s voice I don’t catch

“I’m running late”, the phone pings

“Me too” and I gush out of the door

At last we meet, at least we are here

For a Friday evening

Of sipping on iced tea

Of laughing and giggling

And talking about our men.

 

Question for the day: Life changes a lot after kids. It does take some special effort to just get out there. But it is totally worth the effort. How do you girls ensure that you get some time out? What do the guys do to help?

Of Ice and Men #BarAThon
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22 thoughts on “Of Ice and Men #BarAThon

  • July 1, 2017 at 9:38 am
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    Aaha… so very well worded…the hues of the same world that sees a transformation from the lissome lady to the the graceful mother!!! Loved every bit of it.
    And yes, it appealed to me coz i hv been through this too!
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    Anagha from Team Mocktailmommies
    https://mocktailmommies.blogspot.com

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  • July 1, 2017 at 8:56 am
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    I think is my Job which keeps me sane and help me spend quality time with Kid when at Home. Over the weekends, I am over to my Mother’s place which I am always thankful for. But yes I miss my girlfriends.

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    • June 23, 2017 at 8:04 am
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      That is part of my problem. Most of my besties are in a different country. We try our best to meet up when they are here but with kids and short vacations, it is a rarity.

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      • June 23, 2017 at 9:30 am
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        I totally understand! Had the same problem till a few years back! Even now we can catch up maybe once in 6 months

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  • June 22, 2017 at 12:26 pm
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    The before and after life of a women. So many changes, so many adjustments. What irks is we are the only ones doing it.

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    • June 23, 2017 at 8:07 am
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      I wouldn’t agree with we are the only ones doing it, we probably do way more than men though. Especially the responsibility of taking care of the children falls more on us in the initial years, but hopefully we will strike a balance at some point.

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    • June 23, 2017 at 8:08 am
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      Exactly, it is essential for our sanity:) I believe one of the causes many women go through depression is because of the feeling of being stuck, not able to go out or do something for themselves or just catch a break!

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  • June 21, 2017 at 4:05 pm
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    Well, this is so apt. No, I’m not a toddler mom but still thrre are days I find myself in a bun with the nighty as my #ooftd

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    • June 23, 2017 at 10:54 am
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      Especially happens when we work from home or at home:)

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  • June 21, 2017 at 11:59 am
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    A few words but brings out the contrast in life BC ( before child) and after child so well. It’s surely a challenge especially with no family support but in my case except for the 4 months of maternity leave where I roamed around in dishevelled hair and a nightie it has always been prim and proper. A big reason is going back to Work and being a maniac shopaholic

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    • June 23, 2017 at 8:28 am
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      🙂 I should have used “Before child” or “After child”, would have made the reading more interesting. Going back to work does eliminate the ‘I don’t know and don’t care how I look” look. But what about the making time for catching up with friends? Does working make it easier or more difficult?

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      • June 23, 2017 at 9:52 am
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        It definitely affects socializing. In my case I was always contend spending time amidst books or trying out some new cusines in a restaurant with family, that still continues. In fact I am thrilled to have doscovered my passion for writing and am able to do it regularly after having a baby

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  • June 21, 2017 at 10:58 am
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    Oh Namratha! I love this one. You are a wordsmith in the true sense.
    And yes, it takes a bit of an effort to get out there once in a while, but it’s so worth it. My man happily pitches in and I do need to get away with my girls for the extra perk me up. Sometimes it’s for an evening out and sometimes it’s a coffee date, or organise a girlie lunch at home while the kids are away at school. 🙂

    It keeps the happy hormones flowing and the sanity intact. What say you?

    My post from #BarAThon:

    http://natashamusing.com/2017/06/life-pie-barathon/

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    • June 21, 2017 at 12:08 pm
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      Thanks Natasha:) It means a lot coming from you.
      We so need our fixes of happy hormones once in awhile, but I just get lazy to make the effort. Self-reminder in there to get moving:)

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