Dark baby, fair baby

Do you even care?

Happy baby, healthy baby

Hear hear hear. 

(To be sung to the tune of ‘Warm Kitty’ from ‘Big Bang Theory’)

The incident that prompted this article:

Recently, my maid asked me for the name of a baby lotion which she had taken from me a few years back.

It made my grandson fair. My granddaughter is now 3 months old. She is so black“, she proclaimed shaking her head.

I tried explaining to her that the lotion probably only made the skin feel softer and did not really change the skin color. Also, my thoughts on how the baby’s beauty did not depend on her skin color fell on deaf ears.

But it’s a girl“, she said with a look of finality.

Later that day, she went on to buy the said product on her strained budget. That’s the type of conditioning we have inbuilt.

Question for the day: How many of you were asked about the color of your baby’s skin as soon as he/she was born?

(Bar-A-Thon has only an alternate day schedule, but this was one ‘view’ I wanted to discuss with my readers. It fit so snug with the prompt that I couldn’t pass up the opportunity. )

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5 thoughts on “The Fault In Our Stares-Part 2 #BarAThon

  • June 21, 2017 at 11:45 am

    When my son was born, this was literally the first question people (that is, relatives) asked about him – what’s the complexion like? And when they came to see him, it was also the first thing they commented on (along with questions about “what I ate” and if I had “suggestions for them”). I just sighed and smiled. This conditioning goes wayyy too deep.

  • June 20, 2017 at 11:38 am

    The poor child will be literally hounded and persecuted for this by her family- its a torture for the child.

  • June 20, 2017 at 11:22 am

    This will get me started. I am from North India and live in Bangalore. 2 years ago, when one of my elderly relative came visiting me, she was aghast to watch children playing in the park. She couldn’t refrain from commenting, “Here (in South India) all the children are so black.” This is when she isn’t fair herself. The conditioning and the prejudices make sure people judge others on the basis of their colour and not even leave children. How sad is this? Can our generation make the difference?

  • June 19, 2017 at 2:40 pm

    Well, ain’t our country obssessed with color. I have been asked many times the color of our children as I am fair and hubby is dark. Frankly, I don’t give a damn.


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