Quietness spells trouble

Oh, what are you up to now!

Is that a bindi you are wearing?

Are those my shoes you are trying out?

I swiftly take them away saying

“That’s only for girls, beta”.

 

My daughter follows her brother

Hero worshipping him everywhere,

Shorts & shirt, belt & boots

Hers must match his to the hue

I swiftly take out my camera saying

“That’s so adorable, my dear”.

 

Question for the day: We are ok with little girls who want a superhero tattoo at a birthday party but not so if a little boy prefers a pink flower or a mermaid tattoo. Do we subconsciously send a message to our boys that being #LikeAGirl is not good?

The Fault In Our Stares #BarAThon
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24 thoughts on “The Fault In Our Stares #BarAThon

  • June 17, 2017 at 12:23 am
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    Loved it. Social acceptances and stigmas drive most of our lives. What we do about that not only impacts our lives but also our sons’ and daughters’

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    • June 17, 2017 at 11:13 am
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      Thank you. It’s true, we are stuck with a lot of stigmas and we are passing them on to our children!

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  • June 17, 2017 at 2:27 am
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    So true. Or the fuss that people make if you place a slightly pink hat on baby boy…Cheers!

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    • June 17, 2017 at 11:11 am
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      I am yet to hear a girl saying blue is yucky cause it is a boy’s color!

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  • June 17, 2017 at 8:02 am
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    Great rendition Namratha. Loved it. Such is the irony of life!

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  • June 17, 2017 at 11:24 am
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    Very strong message. Coincidentally one of my stories for BARAThonnhas the same theme! We get caught up in raising strong girls but often forget if we are letting our boys be what they want!

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    • June 17, 2017 at 11:50 am
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      Looking forward to reading that one Akshata:)

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  • June 17, 2017 at 11:54 am
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    Wow, a deep message conveyed in the best ever! Incredible!

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  • June 17, 2017 at 3:40 pm
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    How aptly you have put across your thoughts.

    We live in a society where being a mama’s boy is frowned upon and it is okay to be a daddy’s girl. Though, i am hopeful that things are changing for good.

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    • June 18, 2017 at 10:54 am
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      So true. Hadn’t thought of ‘mamma’s boy and daddy’s girl’. We do need to hang on to hope and change.

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  • June 17, 2017 at 5:28 pm
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    We live in a hypocritical society indeed! In our zeal to offer an equal society to the girl, we might be ignoring a boy’s purview

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  • June 17, 2017 at 6:28 pm
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    Tats true Namratha.. Its ok if the girls wants the hotwheels but not ok if the boy babies wants to play with the doll stroller… I bought the mini kitchen set for my toddler boy who enjoyed playing with it.. lets start the change from us.. 👍

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    • June 18, 2017 at 10:51 am
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      We are a work in progress ourselves as parents, and recognising these biases within us is a small step towards changing that.

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    • June 18, 2017 at 10:49 am
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      Yes, I think it is so deep within us that we can’t think any other way. My views are also based on my experiences with my son: it’s difficult to just let them be especially when it is not the norm.

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  • June 17, 2017 at 7:48 pm
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    Yes, I have seen many parents wary of picking anything “pink” for thier boys. I do feel offended. How can you etch this in thier delicate minds that pink is girlie! What has a color to do with this! Loved how you put it to perspective 🙂

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    • June 18, 2017 at 10:46 am
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      Thank you. Yes there is so much gender stereotyping based on ‘colors’, and kids as small as 4 years learn to declare “I hate pink”

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  • June 18, 2017 at 11:56 am
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    Nicely done. Society has its stereotypes and likes to keep at it. We need to be more accepting in so many ways!

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  • June 19, 2017 at 6:45 am
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    Profound thought, Namy. Loved the way you nailed it down. Expecting to read from you.

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  • June 21, 2017 at 11:40 am
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    This is so true. I read your comment above about a girl never saying that blue is a “yucky boy’s color” and I couldn’t agree more!

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